Too many people let fear keep them from becoming more successful in life. They don’t attempt new things because they fear what others will say or think about them. They fear failing at their new venture or they fear that being successful at their new venture, will some how have a negative impact on their friendships, relationships etc. Others don’t move forward with things they think about doing or achieving because they are afraid of the mental or physical pain that might be involved to accomplish their goal. In others words, they are not willing to pay the price for their success.
If you are not making positive changes to your life because of some sort of fear, here are a few tips that can help.
First…. Know why you really want to accomplish that dream or goal. The more specific you can be, the better.
For example, if your goal is to earn an additional $50,000 this year, know exactly what you plan to do with that extra income. If it’s to pay off debt, imagine how much better you will feel when all your bills are paid off. Imagine not wondering what you are going to have to do without to make sure you pay your bills on time. Imagine what you could do with the money that is now going toward your bills every month.
If it’s to take your dream vacation, imagine the great time you are going to have on that trip. Start collecting pictures & brochures of where you plan on going. Put them in a place where you will see them on a daily basis. Again, the more details the better.
If your goal is to lose weight & get into better shape, imagine how you will look and feel when you achieve your desired goals. Imagine how better the quality of your health and life will be. Think about being able to be more active with your friends & family. Think about how your new looks and energy will impact your job performance and advancement. If that still does not motivate you enough to take action, think about how bad your quality of life might be if you don’t achieve your health and fitness goals.
If you do these things properly, you will find yourself becoming a bit emotional and tied to your goal, as you think about your “why”. And it is this extra emotional attachment to your goals that gives you a better chance of overcoming your fears to accomplish them.
Taking a good, hard look at daily behavior is the key to setting realistic self-improvement goals.
The early Babylonians believed that what people did on the first day of the year affected what they did for the rest of that year. Many of us see the New Year as a perfect opportunity to start over or to change bad habits.
According to several surveys, the most popular resolutions people make are related to health and fitness (eating better, losing weight, and exercising), reducing consumption of alcohol, caffeine, quitting smoking, and becoming more financially responsible by promising to spend less and save more.
Unfortunately, over 80 percent of resolutions are broken by the end of January, and this can leave a person feeling discouraged and even more despondent than before.
Resolutions are complicated, and being able to achieve them usually requires taking a hard look at our thoughts and behaviors. Setting goals keeps us on track, but stamping out old habits is difficult, and may even require the help of a professional.
Compulsive and repeated behaviors such as overeating, overspending, and regularly drinking more than intended can be the result of an underlying anxiety and/or mood disorder. For example, some people may overeat as a means of coping with a troubled marriage or some other distressing life situation. Others may overspend because they are depressed and feel happier when they are shopping.
Examining and treating these underlying psychological issues will not only help us to understand why we continue to engage in negative behaviors, but also help us develop a plan for achieving long-term change.
Striving for self-improvement and setting goals for ourselves gives us a sense of hope for the future. Be sure to make your goals a priority, be specific, and work at them daily.
Good luck and Happy New Year!
Below are six tips to help you stick to your New Year’s Resolutions:
Your goal should be specific. Make your goal concrete, and if necessary, break it down into smaller steps. For example, if your resolution is to consume fewer carbohydrates, resolve to eat carbohydrates only at one meal per day rather than resolving to eliminate carbohydrates entirely. Once you are successful, begin to decrease your consumption further.
Write your Goal down and put it somewhere where you can see it on a daily basis. This will help you to stay focused.
Hold yourself accountable by letting others know about your resolution.
Have coping strategies in place to deal with obstacles that may arise along the way. For example, if your goal is to drink less alcohol you may consider skipping parties or events that involve a lot of drinking or bring a sober friend along to provide you with support and to help keep you on track.
Reward yourself at each milestone; if you resolve to spend less money; reward yourself by getting a massage instead of going shopping. It is important to be conscious of the rewards you chose.
Ask for help. Try to be open to seeking professional help when needed. Knowing when to ask for help takes a great deal of courage, strength and wisdom.
What resolutions have you made for the New Year? Can you suggest some strategies that may help others to keep their resolutions? Please share how you have been successful in keeping resolutions in the past or what obstacles have hindered your success.